Monday, February 07, 2011

All good things come to an end I guess

I have been so lucky so far this pregnancy. I was sick in the beginning but not "kill me now sick", I survived and i've had worse so I couldn't really complain. I had a little cramping at the start but that went away on it's own and other than that things have been pretty dang good and the whole second trimester was amazing. I was so looking foward to go full term (well at least close to it) and delivering up here with an easy "oh look, my water broke, lets get our things together, maybe have a shower, get the kids to Jill's and drive to the hospital" where a couple hours later we deliver our healthy baby.

Looks like our luck has run out. On Saturday night around 5pm I started having some "cramps". Nothing too serious, just something I knew was a little more than Braxton Hicks and they wouldn't go away. Dustin came home from work and made me go to bed. I had them through the night and around 4am, they were gone. Thank goodness. I hate jumping to the worst case scenario and so all day the next day (yesterday) I was good and just sat on my butt all day relaxing. Well as much as I can with the 3 girls and didn't cramp at all.

Then this morning around 5am, when our lovely children decide it's time to get up, I was awake in bed while Dustin got them cereal and stuff. He's awesome like that and always gets up with them. I started feeling the cramps again. Not too bad but enough for me to realize I need to go in and see what's going on. So Dust stayed home and we took the kids to Jills and we headed to the hospital.

Long story shorter.... I was having some tightenings showing on the monitor, enough to cause for concern, so they hooked me up to IV to get some fluids in me. The doctor came in, checked me, thank goodness I was still fully closed and long etc, pretty much still good. But he was really worried given my history and told me it's likely i'll have this baby by 34 weeks and he doesn't see me making it to 35 weeks to be able to deliver up here. My heart sank. I went from being the happy positive girl with no worries to complete stress in a couple minutes. They did a swab to see if I will go into labour within the next two weeks or not (I know, weird eh?) and thank goodness it came back negative. I didn't even know a test like that existed. So it's 98% accurate she said so that gives me some hope. The doctor kind of freaked me out though, I know it's a huge chance he is taking by saying that but I guess it's their job to be prepared for worse case. So he now wants me on strict bed rest, and only to get up to go to the bathroom. Right. I have little 3 kids that's pretty much, um, impossible! Oh also no going up stairs. ha ya right. So he gave me the steroid shot to help develop the babies lungs quicker, just to be safe and I have to go for the other one tomorrow. I'm glad for that. I had to get that with the twins too, and they were 7 weeks early and didn't have to spend any time on the breathing machine, so I totally think it helps.

So the thing that concerns me is the "contractions" I was feeling are the exact ones that put me into labour both times with the twins. It was like dejavu and I dilated with those back then, so that's what makes me worried. They aren't painful or super strong but enough to obviously cause change. So as of today i'm on bed rest. Wonderful.

Dustin has 5 days off starting on Friday until Tuesday and then my mom and maybe grandma are planning on coming up for a couple weeks and then my sister Britt after that. So that buys me almost 5 weeks. That would take me to 35 weeks and that would be amazing. Dustin can't really take any more work off because he doesn't get paid leave and we are still trying to catch up for school and obviously prepare for baby, so I am so grateful for family and amazing friends who have already stepped up to offer help with meals etc.

So i'm trying to stay positive but i'm so worried at the same time. I was totally fine in the hospital and didn't want to let it get to me but as soon as I got home I broke down. I can only be so strong and I told myself, it's ok to cry and I really needed to cry. It was just a lot to take in in a day and I was a little overwhelmed. I hate having to ask for help and I hate being the needy one, so here I am again in this position of needing it. It's definitely humbling. I don't want to deliver a preemie again, and I don't want to see my baby in the hospital. Going through that once, is enough. My husband is amazing, he came home, got the kids in bed and cleaned the house up and started doing a ton of laundry. I love him. I also got a blessing tonight, i'm so grateful for the knowledge of priesthood power and that I have a husband I can rely on in times like this. Ok I am kind of an emotional wreck writing this, so maybe I should stop.

I was planning on taking a belly picture today for you all but that kind of got put on the back burner. Obviously. I guess it'll have to be tomorrow. I love all of you who support me, even from far away. Thanks in advance for all the love and support to come, it means the world to me. I know we can do this. 5 weeks isn't that long, so lets pray it flies by.

I always tell myself, it could always be worse, and this helps me through the hard times because I always think someone has it harder than me and to be grateful for what I have.



24 comments:

Mark and Hilary said...

so sorry this is turning out this way! I hope the time flies by for you & everything turns out great. I'll be thinking of you!

The Harker Family said...

Oh Mindy, I hope you get all the rest and help you need! I would suggest letting your Relief Society president know. I know you don't want to, but you NEED to! That is what the Relief Society is there for (hence it's name), and we have many wonderful opportunities in life to return those very same acts of service, so don't feel bad receiving them (I know how that is as I am just like you and I HATE and REFUSE to receive help). But you need to for the health of your baby! I wish you were here as I would help you. Let me know if there is anything I can do from out here...I will call your Relief Society President if you don't do it yourself or get someone to! Ha! Take care okay honey! You're in our thoughts and prayers!

Jordana said...

That's scary Mindy, it's definitely way too early for that baby to come. That's so great that your mom and sister can come up to help!

Amy said...

Mindy that is so scary. I hope the time flies by. That is great your family is able to come help. Good luck!

Julie Allred said...

Good Luck Mindy!! I will keep you in my prayers. You are so strong, I am always so impressed with your attitude. I am glad people are stepping up to help you. Take care of yourself and that little babe.

Amie said...

You are in our prayers Mindy!! Stay in bed and hopefully this little baby will take its time coming into this world! Love you lots!

mad about him!!! said...

awe min, that sucks so bad!!! but i am grateful you are home and still pregnant! i remember bed rest, and i feel for ya...it was 19 weeks of it with justin, and it was SO hard to accept help, and even worse to have to ask people for it, but after putting myself back in the hospital by trying to do it on my own, i had to give in...just be happy for each day you get with that little one inside you, and i really wish i could help you, i would so take your kids, laundry, bring you food...but you are strong chickie, and you can do this!!!!!!

Lynn said...

hugs. You are in my prayers. Seriously. Like right now.

It will be okay. Rely on your V.T. and RS Presidency. That's what they are there for. Don't worry about being "needy". We all have to take turns serving one another sometime someway....so now it's your turn to give someone that opportunity. I know. It sucks somedays. But one day you can just pay it forward.

Hang in there! P.S. Your hubby totally rocks.

Kristin said...

Hi Mindy,
I've been popping in and out of your blog for a few months now (not sure how I got linked in in the first place?) however, after reading this post, its worthy of telling you that I am cheering for you and I hope that 5 weeks come and go sooner than your precious babe arrives. Call on your support. Rest and take care.

Randy and Capri Bird said...

That sucks Mindy. Hopefully you make it beyond 5 weeks! Keeping you in my prayers! Wish I could do more for you.

linda rae said...

Mindy...more prayers from here, and I will put your name on the temple prayer roll.

Your sacrifices for your beautiful family will bring your greatest blessings.

Love you!

The Pratts said...

Whoa I'm sorry! Hang in there, lady. Hooray for family...I'm so glad you'll have some help around to try to keep this baby in for 5 more weeks (or hopefully longer)!

Ashley Woolf said...

I HOPE everything get better for you! Thank goodness for husbands and family! Even if they are far away they are always there when you need them! Good luck with everything! It will all work out in the end and you will have another happy healthy baby to cuddle and love!

Carrie said...

Hey Mindy - I'm so sorry that things took such a down turn for you, and I hope and pray that everything will turn out just fine for you guys. If you do end up needing to deliver in Edmonton again, let me know. I'm not sure if you have any other family or friends who live there, but Seriously. We live in a decent sized house in Sherwood Park and totally have room to help if Dustin or your family need somewhere to stay. Honestly, don't hesitate to ask. My email is carriefamulak@gmail.com and I'd love to help any way I can. Love ya and good luck with everything!

henline crew said...

Oh man, that totally sucks and is so scary! I'm sorry!! I hope everything is ok and how awesome for you family to come help!!

Purnell Family said...
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Purnell Family said...

Your strong!! I'm sorry to hear that is happening to you. Family is such a blessing, thats great that you will be getting their help. Take Care of yourself. We'll be praying for you and your family.

Purnell Family said...

Your strong!! I'm sorry to hear that is happening to you. Family is such a blessing, thats great that you will be getting their help. Take Care of yourself. We'll be praying for you and your family.

Amber and Brad said...

Hope your doing OK. Our prayers are with you and your family! Good thing your husband is so awesome and helpful!

Ashley said...

Oh Mindy! That is so scary and hard. You will be in our thoughts and prayers and so will the baby. Try to keep positive! I know it's hard, but everything always turns out in the end. I am so glad that you have so much love and support and family and friends who are willing and able to help you. Good luck with everything!

Jennie Holt said...

oh i am so sorry that is horrible news! bed rest has to be the worst! especially with those 3 rambunctious girls running around! we are praying for you! hang in there!

The Dudley Bunch said...

I totally relate to how you are feeling. I was on bed rest with the last 2 pregnancies. It really blows. However, take advantage while you can of having someone else do all the menial chores...ha ha. Actually, just remember that every day the baby stays in your belly, that is the equivalent of 3 days of NICU. That motivated me like crazy. It will all turn out okay, just stay strong.

DTurnerFamily said...

aww Mindy that sucks! Bed rest sounds nice, but totally SUCKS and it's WAY harder to sit and do nothing than you would think. haha I know you know that all too well! keep you're chin up! I totally relate with the complicated and also sometimes scary pregnancies. take care of yourself and just focus on growin that little one inside of you! and let your friends and family take care of the rest. It will all be over soon and I'll be praying that little one stays inside till the end so you can deliver close to home! You can do this!

Rhiannon Nicole said...

Awe Mindy I am thinking of you girl and just know that everything will be ok in the end!! You look fabulous by the way!! And I know this baby is going to be just perfect :) Keep smiling girl and stay strong. GET SOME REST TOO!!! xoxoxo

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