I swear the DAY Kyla turned two, she changed into this little miss attitude. I was like, "where did my sweet girl, who listened to everything I say go?!" She was SO stubborn! She never stayed in her time outs on the stairs, or anywhere. Ever. It came to the point where I had to lock her in her room for my sake and her safety! I'd have to have my housecoat tied from her door to the bathroom door. She would NOT calm down, and she'd scream and kick the door. Hard. There were numerous phone calls to Dustin with me in tears, not knowing what to do. I went over and over about what to do, I tried a million things, I can't even remember them though. Dangit. But some days I just wanted to beat her. Don't judge me, you all know what I am talking about!
I even tried spanking when I thought it called for it, but that didn't even phase her and it hurt me more than her. Actually one time I tried swatting her and she was freaking out and whipping everywhere I missed and bent my finger really bad and actually thought I broke it. Remember this? Ya that's what REALLY happened. That doesn't make me look like an abusive mother at all.......
So that was a hard time to get through and she is still really stubborn and has a hard time listening. Which I assume is normal for most kids. I got her figured out pretty well now, but man she still drives me nuts sometimes.
Breathe Mindy Breathe.
So I thought I was blessed. My twins would sit on the bottom stair for their timeout and would STAY. They wouldn't move until I said, "ok go give so and so a hug and say sorry" and they would! It was pure joy. I loved timeouts. I felt like I actually had control. It was awesome. WELL, don't get too excited Mindy because it's all crap, a huge load of crap. Jayci and Presley throw tantrums which is whatever. I would just sit them on the stair and they would stay, the were freaking out, but they would stay until I said. Until last week..... I had a minor panic attack. I sat her down (her being one of the twins, I can't remember who though) and she flails off the stair rolling around on the floor and then gets up and runs away! I tried to put her back like 4 times and she kept doing it. Finally I gave in. Bad idea I know. Remember don't judge me. And this happened all week with both of them. No one was listening or staying or hugging with kisses. All my order had went out the window. What. the. crap.
They DID just turn 2. Weird.
So on Saturday I was sick and Jayci was throwing a tantrum because her and Presley were fighting and I put her in a timeout because she was the one hitting. Dustin was gone because he took Kyla for a little bike ride. So I said, that's it, I'M winning this time. So I sat her down and held her there. She was freaking out and I was sick and didn't want to fight so I picked her up and took her to her room and shut the door. She was screaming and kicking and hitting the door.
It was like a dejavu nightmare! No, No, No! I do not want to be doing this again with two of them!
I just need to be firm and stick to it. I watched Dr. Phil and he had a lady on there who wrote a book on Parenting I actually want it really bad. It's called The Big Book of Parenting. Super good. And she said why do we count to 3? Why do we give them that chance, they should just learn to do it the first time you ask. So i've been trying to do that and it actually is true. Why count to 3? Just do it when mom says! She said that moms give in because it's the easy route. I totally understand that. It's less stressful for US. I agree. Just things you don't think about, and she has a great way of parenting. Anyways I can't wait to get it. I really want it.
What works for your kid(s)? I love to hear how other people parent, it just gives me a different view of it. I love it. So share away!
Kyla I need help with too, she pesters the little girls and they are crying and freaking out because she is bugging them. So I get mad at her and she just laughs at me. Seriously.
Please pray for me, actually pray for the kids. Who knows how long they'll be alive.